Friends treating you like crap

thecharmedone · #1 (**permalink**) 04-18-2006, 11:27 AM

ive been hangin out with the same group of friends i've hung out with for most of my life but lately they are treating me like crap. no one calls to invite me to an outing or stuff or if they do, its on rare occasions and they probably feel sorry for me left home alone. i just feel sad, depressed, lonely all the time and i feel rejected. I dont get the impression that anyone really likes me at all. they r good to me only when they want something from me and i usually give in coz im so desperate. can anyone help?? i need advice..

also i need to make some new friends if anyone is interested post back

jeckapards · #2 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 02:24 AM

hi, i just read bout ur post.. wen i scroll down to see some of the topics, ur subject hit me at me at once. i was thinking what was her story bout, that it was so sad. hey, i know when i tell you that i understand, u'd probably say "yeah right.. everybody and anybody can say that", but i say this genuinely. believe me been there, felt that and survived, ok? felt exactly the same way in college and my only resort was my journal,i used to write poems there, poems on madness and anything that i find ugly about me. boy writing helped me a lot. and music too. i would lock myself in my room and i could write and listen to music the whole day.

i still get a lil lonely these days but hey its a nice feeling you know, i mean you'll realize that your just someone who has a heart, and there's nothing wrong with it!

good day!

sugarglider · #3 (**permalink**) 04-23-2006, 02:54 AM

Madabtmusic, that's a really terrible thing to hear, and something which no-one should have to suffer. There's no worse feeling than being ignored, disliked, bullied, or just being out of the loop. You sound like a very interesting, thoughtful, knowledgeable, passionate, intelligent person and I just don't believe people don't like you.

Very few friends last forever, and you'll often find that friendships just naturally fade away as you and your friends just grow apart. It's a lot like relationships- people just fall out of love. A friend for life is very a rare thing, like a beautiful gem. It can be very upsetting when friendships start to fall away, especially if they've been friends for a long time, but I think it's just part of life.

Find some new friends. If you like music, go and see some bands, or start a band. Or maybe you could try a new sport, or join a club. Meet some new people with common interests. There are lots of people out there looking to make new friends, and you'd make a great friend for them.

I certainly wouldn't recommend locking yourself away - I think this will make the problem much worse.

lucymikelj · #4 (**permalink**) 06-15-2006, 08:26 PM

I had the same problem like you thecharmedone..I had "friends" who called me only if thay want somethink from me..I was very sad..than I have met now my bestfriend...it was like angel in the dark days:) always are bad days and then come happiest days:) just believe and it will be true...now I realy see what means to have a friend...thecharmedone they dont deserve you!! find better friends who will love you on the way you are:)

sanuanu · #5 (**permalink**) 06-17-2006, 09:18 AM

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thecharmedone they dont deserve you!! find better friends who will love you on the way you are:)

Exactly, thecharmedone , you should not be thinking negative of yourself. Just believe in yourself and in your destiny. The world is big enough to find some realy good and nice friends. Just forget them and try to find some new friends. Believe me, you will feel better. Just have confidence, these are part of life and gives experience of how to handle different people in this world.
Cheer up :D
Be happy :idea:

media06 · #6 (**permalink**) 07-16-2006, 03:40 PM

You teach others how to treat you. Your friends treat you like crap because you allow them to. Obviously you are aware that this is a problem so you need to do something about it. It’s a hard realization sometime that some friendships have an expiry dates. Once you have grown and learn everything you can within a friendship it may be time to movie on, so then you can look back upon that friendship with smiles, rather than allow it get bitter. Sometimes we remain with the same friends for years, but remember you are not the same person you were years ago and neither are they. It’s okay to grow apart and make new friends. Remember you deserve to be treated well.

panggz · #7 (**permalink**) 07-16-2006, 06:41 PM

luckily, i haven't really had friends like those..

but, u know what, thecharmedone..?
they're right..
they don't deserve u..
u seem like a really nice person..
if i were in ur situation, i'd start avoiding them..
and i'll go find a new group of friends that'll like and understand me better..
i mean, c'mon..!
there are a lot of other people out there, waiting for someone nice as you to enter their lives..

y stick with the ones who (according to you) show no interest in hangin out with u, unless they need something that u have..?

and, uhh, you can start here..
we can be your cyber friends..
maybe we can help cheer you up, huh..? :D

sanuanu · #8 (**permalink**) 07-18-2006, 05:56 AM

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Originally Posted by panggz

u seem like a really nice person..

Hmmmmm, nice person!!!!
Ahhhhhhhh, no one and I mean to say on one has said this thing to me with such a lovely way.
I would be wating for one who can tell me that...............

panggz · #9 (**permalink**) 07-18-2006, 08:34 PM

but, sanuanu, u are nice..
i've been talking to you in forums and u are really really nice.. :D

sanuanu · #10 (**permalink**) 07-20-2006, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by panggz

but, sanuanu, u are nice..
i've been talking to you in forums and u are really really nice.. :D

Hey that was tooo much. Is it real? if it is thenI would like to cut and paste this thing and take a printout of this and it will be in my pocket young lady. Hi hi hi

but I will be very careful dear not become very chiky over it and I know it is only for fun. anywayz thankz.

And yes, I am not nice I am a devill :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Ha ha ha

jestuarn · #11 (**permalink**) 07-20-2006, 03:17 PM

Well, I guess that they want something from you is the main reason they stick to you. Humans are socially dependent creatures. However, if you want to find true friends, you had to find from a place that makes you look like you got nothing. As they say, the best things are free.

You know, it is actually harder to find a good frine nowadays than in the medieval ages. What happens to "good friends die together, fight together, and drink together"? :x

panggz · #12 (**permalink**) 07-20-2006, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by sanuanu

Hey that was tooo much. Is it real? if it is thenI would like to cut and paste this thing and take a printout of this and it will be in my pocket young lady. Hi hi hi

but I will be very careful dear not become very chiky over it and I know it is only for fun. anywayz thankz.

And yes, I am not nice I am a devill :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Ha ha ha

hey, i was serious when i typed the words in..! :x

u are nice..
(and i'll be expecting a gift from u on christmas since i said really good things about you..

nah, jez kidding..

)

no, u really are nice..
and i'm glad i met you here..

panggz · #13 (**permalink**) 07-20-2006, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by jestuarn

Well, I guess that they want something from you is the main reason they stick to you. Humans are socially dependent creatures. However, if you want to find true friends, you had to find from a place that makes you look like you got nothing. As they say, the best things are free.

You know, it is actually harder to find a good frine nowadays than in the medieval ages. What happens to "good friends die together, fight together, and drink together"? :x

uhh, yea, those people are what i would call parasites..
no offense meant to anyone in here, iight..?

i just think it's very inappropriate, what they're doin' to ya..
i mean, they shouldn't like you just when they need something from you if they're true to ya..
know what m sayin..?

and, yea, true friends nowadays are hard to find..
but i've already found mine..

btw, check this out.. http://www.bolt.com/sawsawka/video/1617965
it's a video made by a really good friend of mine..
i cried when i saw it..
it was a really sweet thing to do..
(she gave it out to all of us as testimonials on friendster..)

sanuanu · #14 (**permalink**) 07-21-2006, 12:47 PM

Thank you very much. You made me immotional. Nyways, if possible I ll make an arrangement for your gift, but only if possible. Its emmmmm a promise and I m very little known as a promise keepar

You are also very nice and intelligent too. Sometimes very funny also.
Cheers.
Did I see a wink at last line???

sanuanu · #15 (**permalink**) 07-21-2006, 01:07 PM

True, but parasites, no that's not good word to use. No offence that what they do are not good but there should be different word coz they do for they do not know the value of friendship. When they realize they repent and believe they do repent.
they may also human and they get the same from their friend that's why they do that.
Need to see the video, havn't seen it yet.