Problems with friends who are alcoholics but don't know it

[cool]

Does anyone have friends who drinks too much, gets rowdy, acts like jerks and don't know they have a problem? You just can't make them understand that they are alcoholics, can you?

One moment, they are all cool about things, the next after they are drunk, they can be the biggest jerks!

Share your thoughs and experiences please!

[leothe13th]

i also lot of bad exp .....people a lot....even they also know 2 packs is more then enough...
still have 5-6 pack.....then afterwards they even dont wht they saying....and nothing.
when thay came to life....u go ask....them.
thay i dont remeber anything.....i feel like ****ing him witha bamboo...

[freakyfreddie]

friends like that are worst!
they bring trouble wherever they go once they get drunk
i second your thoughts leo, do the bamboo thingy lol

[systematikaos]

hmmm...dunno bout it. but i was once QUITE an alcoholic. that was the time when i had nothing to do, but just waiting to go overseas to study. i was drinking every single day. not much, but i'll always ask my fren to come to my house and we'd each get a shot or two of chivas (always readily available at my house) with coke. and we'd drink.
sometimes,i'll be going for Special Brew which has a higher percentage of alcohol content. that's bcos i think it's more worth it if i get drunk easier. not so much drunk, but more to the little high of a little alcohol nudging u.
but after a while, when i had to go overseas, n i dun get to drink at all, i suddenly realise that i rili wanted to drink. like i'd wish i had some beer so that i could sleep better. so u see, it creeps into u.
but as for trouble frens, not rili. drink and be merry!, so said.
if they do have those problems, professional help shld be seeked.

[humpty]

it happened few years back...
it was my 21st birthday, and we were celebrating at a disco-club,
basically any of my friends who see me would go like

"eh? still standing? come come come"
(even friends of friends i just met on that night said that to me, unfortunately, no cool chicks said so though lol)

and drag me to the bar, buying me a cocktail or something, the most memorable was "graveyard" , coz it din taste that good for me, well

basically, i was drinking glasses after glasses of chivas whisky, 3 graveyards, 5 tequila pop shots, and a few more god knows what they're called cocktails,

inevitably, i was drunk, so drunk, my friend (A) had to call another friend (B), to pick up another friend (C) to get me home, it goes like...

A drives his own car,
B drives his own car but picks up C, and
C drives my car to send me home lol

i didn't cause any trouble by picking up fights or anything, but i guess it was not a pleasurable thing to do in the middle of the nite, arranging transports for a drunk friend like that

since that nite, i never allowed myself to go all drunk anymore if i were outside with friends, but the question remains...

was it considered a trouble i gave my friends, or was it understandable, that shits like this happen and you're supposed to take care of it as a friend, coz you were there getting more n more drinks to that friend wh's now the drunk guy, till now, i somehow don't have an answer to it,
what say you guys give me your opinions

[panggz]

drinking with friends is great fun..!
i mean, it's when we get to really have fun coz the alcohol helps us talk more and laugh more n stuff..

i drank a lot with friends back then (high school days) and i only got really really drunk once..
usually when we drink, I take care of the drunk ones..
not the other way around..

i dealt with a friend so drunk that she lies down the middle of the road (no cars though, coz it was really late already)..
and friends who cry a lot when drunk..
or a friend who even told us that he wanted to commit suicide coz of a girl he loved when he got soo drunk..

you see, your friends, more or less, know that any of u may get drunk and they should know that no one else should be helpin u other than them coz they're the ones who're with you..

i mean, when i used to help out really drunk friends i kinda liked it..
it may be time consuming and very hard to do, but, what the heck, they're my friends..
and i know that when the time comes that I get drunk and they're the ones sober enough to help me out, they will..
they really will..

besides, getting all tipsy or drunk is all part of the "drinking session"..
lol*..

causing trouble though, or starting fights isn't right anymore..
anyone like that should just stop drinking..
it's just not right..

[hhope1]

When your friends get drunk it lowers their guard and you learn a lot of things about them that you normally wouldn't. This isn't necessarily a good thing though.

If your friend does reveal something as extreme as a desire to commit suicide while drunk-you should probably suggest or bring up the topic of seeking help when they get sober again. Something like that may also be contributing to their alcoholism.

[panggz]

i think that friend's fine already, coz the girl he loved was, uhh, me.. :oops:
we already talked it over..
besides, he's not the type of person who'll kill himself over some girl..

but, anywayz, ur right..
it lowers their guard..
it can be good at times coz u get to learn more about them but when they reveal something such as, like, he wants to commit suicide and u think he sounds serious, seek help..
at least i know now that my friend's doin fine now..

thankz, hhope1.. :)

[hhope1]

Oh, oops well I'm glad you guys talked things over and everythings all right now. 8)

[panggz]

we just laugh or guts out when we talk about the whole suicide thing now.....


thankz again.. :)