Neede some advice and help

lciricesk8trgal · #1 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 09:18 PM

okay so I did it again. I snapped at someone because I was stressed out. I tend to do that a lot more lately. I'm not sure why I do it. Sometimes it just happens. I snapped at someone I really cared about too. I know I shouldn't have done it. Something just happend that set it off. What's worse is that I haven't been able to talk to this person at all to appologize for my actions. I've been really stressed out lately and there's a lot of crap that's buggin me. Part of it is that I"m sick right now. I caught a cold and when I get sick I tend to get a little bitchy and stuff. I don't mean to but it kinda happens. I"m taking a bunch of sinus meds and some advil to help with the headaches. I also have a production team for an Ice skating competition that i am basically running by myself. It's a lot of hard work and I didn't realize that it was going to be this hard when I got into it. I"ve been getting frustrated lately because I can't ever seem to have a whole team together for practice. I hope that we are still doing it. I mean I want to do it down there, but I don't know if we can since it seems like everythign I do just pushes everyone too hard. Anyways I really want to take this production team on but I don't know if I can deal with running the whole thing. I would love some help from the team members. I'm not very good at asking for help but I do realize that i need to do so because if I don't I think I will end up stressing myself out and possibly snapping at other people. My mother adds into this mix by complaning about how much time i spend around the rink now. I"M working very hard lately to get a seond job so that I can possibly save up the money to get down to a competition. I found a place to stay that's about a mile away from the rink, but we will see if I can even get down there. If worse comes to worse i may have to call my dad and ask to borrow some money. I don't know when I can pay him back but I will some how. I also came to terms yesterday with something that I didn't realize what was going on. I get performance anxiety really badly, but never realized it until now. If you combine everything that is going on all together is make for one very stressed out person.
any advice is appriciated. I know that my friend is really pissed at me because of what I said. It was really cruel and i should have never said it. I just hope that at some point she can find it in her heart to forgive me.

sbhuvan · #2 (**permalink**) 01-14-2007, 03:02 AM

hi friend welcome to talktopics.com
i think ur a nervous person.U can realise ur mistake but the proplem is that u cant control it.better u take yoga exercise it will be helpful for u

cheennee · #3 (**permalink**) 01-23-2007, 08:58 AM

yeah sweetie i guess that's a big problem.. you should know how to control your feeling/actions.. maybe you could do some technics on how to control your feelings... not all peeps can nderstand how you act.. :) but its ok.. hehehehe..., on second thought maybe you need a fried that can understand you.. add me up i will understand you... hehehehe..... cheennee@yahoo.com

spestburn · #4 (**permalink**) 01-26-2007, 01:16 PM

It's ok if u r a nervous person..Wil I'm nervous 2. And eventhough ppl don't like it, It still my nature, and I wont change it just 2 make them happy.And w.r.t. ur frineds they should understand that it's ur nature, and u can do nothing about it. Any way my name is Rawia, and my E-mail is : spest-burn@hotmail.com

cheennee · #5 (**permalink**) 01-27-2007, 04:25 AM

you have a point.. you wont have to change it just to make them happy. but sometimes you have to change something about your attitude for your own good...

Kendra · #6 (**permalink**) 02-26-2007, 07:48 PM

Hey, I can sort of relate to what you're feeling. You have alot of things going on, and it's all taking it's toll on you. It's not easy to deal with everything. I think what you need to do is really sit down and focus on what you really need to do, and what things you can eliminate from your life to make you less stressed. I do think that you need to ask for help from other team members... it's too much for you to do on your own. It's hard to ask for help at first, but you'll be happy you did. Also, try to clear you mind from all that's going on every once in awhile. Get away from the stress- maybe take a walk, listen to music, or do something that is relaxing to you. You will find that you will be much more relaxed and you won't snap at your friends as much. All the stress is taking control over you, but you need to take control of it and take control of your life.