So-called friend!!

[lulaolson]

What do I do when my friend Valerie talking mean about my other friends to me?? I feel she is always telling rumors.Me and My friend Valerie broke up as friends about 4 times over this what do I do now??
I also feel I don't have much female friends anymore I have more guy-friends for some reason I trust them more then females.

[kowiamay]

I think a lot of women go through a period in their lives where they "trust" male friends more than female. However, I think it's more that male friends are easier to deal with b/c they don't need to explore the emotional frontiers as much as our female friends do. I suggest that with Valerie, you tell her that you are going to change the subject every time she starts gossiping, and then just do that. Change the subject to something that you are both comfortable with. I think that will re-establish your friendship as something positive for both of you.

[jae372]

I think that is an excellent idea to change the subject when your friend begins to gossip and speak badly about other people. I know I myself tend to have more male friends then female as I really do feel like I can trust them more. I only have three really good female friends that I know I can trust and I am totally ok with that.

[callpappy]

the worst advisor ya have here,but when this kind of stuff happens to me,
I think about this,my mom was my best friend.Nomatter what I,felt,said,did,cared about,heard,liked or needed,she had ,already been there,done that,thought that,felt that,swore that,cared about that,wanted,or need that too,and she was still alive.it didn't kill her to want or feel that way either.Well she passed away 44 years ago,but she is still here, throu my thoughts anyway,and still my best friend.You can't lose with someone,who ,only has you in mind.( but I never thought about a male mom, but now days ,anything is possible.)