Friends always let you down

[summie]

It's a fact! Friends always let you down in the end, except maybe the ones you've known from childhood. But as a rule, they always do, right?

[panggz]

yea, sad but a bit true..
but i guess in the end, they do things that make up for the not-so-nice things they did to you..
right..?

[summie]

No usually they leave broken and wasted...Sigh, if only they did make up for the damage they cause, the world would be a better place wouldn't it?

[panggz]

yea, it really would..

i used to have these friends whom i thought would last, like, forever..
but then one of them (A) and another (B) had a fight..
i didn't know what to do of course..
majority thought i was on B's side so A got sorta mad at me too..
he started telling others that we weren't friends, and stuff like that..
it hurt like hell..
i mean, i treated him so nicely and that's all i get from him..?
we used to be sooo close.. (B)
and it just hurt me coz of the thought that after all we've been through and after everything we shared it'll all be gone, just coz of a really really shallow misunderstanding..
what's even worse is that i'm not even involved in the misunderstanding thing.. :cry:
me & A still don't see B and the others til now..
and to think that the fight was, like, two months ago..

[annooom]

they always let you down and its 4 a reason! But they r always new freinds!

[jeckapards]

Ok, maybe we our friends let us down, but in some or in many ways we have also let our friends down. but come to think of it we only feel let down by our friends because they are special, and anything bad that they whether for us, for others or for themselves can have a big impact on us. but if it was any other stranger, we wouldn't be as affected right?

but in the end, we love our friends and there's always a room for patching things up... good day to you all

[sugarglider]

I agree with you, jeckapards - nobody's perfect, and there are no perfect friendships.

It's upsetting when people let you down, but it's really part of life. It's also inevitable that you will let your friends down one day, just as they let you down.

Getting through the rough patches in a friendship is very important - knowing how to resolve problems, admit fault, patch things up, forgive and forget.

[panggz]

guess you guys are right..

well, though i know they let me down..
guess should still thank them..
coz, in a way, trials like these help us develop..
they help us mold to be better persons and help us grow stronger..

am i right..?

[natalieme]

Yeah you are all right at a certain point, what I think is that we better try to make a conclusion why a friendship was turned and not to look for the reason always in the others. First better to look for the fault in ourselves and if we are strong enough and if it is really worth to do so it doesn't lower the dignity for sure to say sorry and to make a step to patch first instead to wait. Sometimes you do not have fault but you can try to say you are sorry for something you also did and then if that person who was wrong is a real friend will confess his/her mistakes too. Friendship goes trough bad and good times, sometimes is like being so happy, sometimes it hurts but the important thing is before you qualify someone for your friend to give yourself a time to know more about that person. If you can have respect of the different opinions you have because understanding is difficult to obtain but respect and desire to help in a some way are the first patterns of someone who cares, you can choose that person for a friend. After misunderstanding or fight or arguing when you patch it up it is like you know what was the reason for it all and not to repeat it the next time.

And when 2 of your friends are fighting as it is from my experience if you like them the same way and if they both have a right be sure to tell them both when they are fighting that you love them and you can not take any side. But if you can clearly see who of them is right and who is wrong better support the one that has a reason do react in a particular way, but also trying to show the wrong one we all do mistakes and we can just change a little bit if we have done something not so nice.

At last we have to thank the people that are our friends for their patience, tolerance, help, support and have to respect their opinion.

[purefriendship]

Dear Friends,
I fully agree with our Natalieme and it's the Mutual Trust and understandings paves the way for a fruitful friendship.
True friends are the people that are there for you unconditionally.
They are the people that never question you and support you no matter what the circumstances are.
They are the people worth living for.
Without a friend we can never evaluate how good u r.
Its only the friends that make u realize how good or bad u r. they never let u down n never make u regret on our mistakes.
Friendship is a gift that is fair in all things.
It roots from one's heart and involves memories that stay not for a while but for a lifetime.
Without friends, no one would want to live, even if he had all other goods.
The greatest sweetener of human life is
Friendship. To raise this to the highest pitch of enjoyment, is a secret which but few discover.
If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them.
If u underestimate others , then the pitfall starts.
cya.........subbu

[B-loved]

Well probably there's a truth with that but what is important is that you chooe your friends wisely before making a deep bond of friendship with anyone.

[sara.naseem]

u r rite that we choose our friends carefully....

but i guess,,friendship involves love... and love happens..

one can not judge the person fully before getting into friendship....

its always been the case with me.... :(

[panggz]

i kinda have to agree.. sometimes it's hard to truly know a person until u bond with them, bcoz most of the time, first impressions are wrong..