Thoughts and views about being betrayed by friends

[foxiebaby]

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[cheeselovecia]

I`ve once been betrayed by one of my best friend.. but until now..i still cant forgive her n everytime i see her, i will just pretend i didnt see her .. And when she saw me , she will just go n hide from me , seems like she`s so scared to see me..

I really cant forgive her just like that..
anyone can give me some advice or opinions about it ?

[cool]

How did she betray you? Perhaps if you explain, we can talk about it.

[cheeselovecia]

I dunno where to start the story.. but i once have a boyfren which my family din noe at all.. Becuz my bf reputation is not good so people will think that its bad to be with him.. :twisted:

But love is blind rite ? so i din care about tat at all in tat moment..
then one nite..my very best fren called my mum n told her everything about me n my bf.. i was sleeping at tat time but dunno why i suddenly wake up n overheard tat "SUX" conversation btwn my mum n my fren.. I was so furious n scared at once, she is rili too much.. why she never discuss with me 1st n did those things that has no relationship with her at all..IT`S MY OWN PERSONAL THING.. i dun nid anyone to interfere..F***

I can only tell u guys until here.. cos the next story doesnt have any relationship with her already but all becus of her.. i suffered very much at tat time which made me cant forgive her until now..
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[cool]

Well, from what you're saying, you'll need to look at it this way:

1. Reputation of your BF

If your best friend thinks or really believe that your BF is extremely bad for you, she may feel protective and the only way she knows how is tell your mom. For example, if your best friend is about to commit suicide, do you or do you not have the right to intervene? So, without knowing the facts, you'll need to ask yourself if the reason she's doing what she did is because she cares about you and wanted to protect you.

So, the question is, how bad a reputation does your BF have? Is it real? Is it dangerous, like maybe he's a drug lord or something.

If it's just small things like he's a playboy, then telling your mom would be a bit too far to go I think.

[cheeselovecia]

His reputation ?? hmm.. quite difficult to state it out but.. its like he`s with many girls before n many people think tat he`s using some blackmagic to make tat girl in love with him..i am not sure its true or not but as wat i heard , its like tat..

But at least she must cum n talk to me 1st.. wont she a bit too rush about it ? I HATE HER SO MUCH u noe.. its not about care n protect now, but she betrayed me for telling my mum about tat..

wat if u were me ?

[cool]

1. Black Magic

No such things. All superstitions. But for people who believe in them, it can be very real for them at least. So, I can sorta understand why your friend was so worried because she may think that you're under the 'black magic' influence of your BF so that whatever she says to you, you won't listen.

That's why believing in superstitions can be a bad thing. Your friend's believe in black magic definitely made her do what she did. But if knew that black magic does not exist then she won't jump to the conclusion that your BF has a hold over you and may have just talked to you.

2. I guess you got a point in that she oughta have talked to you first. But are you sure she didn't tell you that your BF was not good for you and you just didn't want to listen?

3. If she was your best friend, I would forgive her because in this case, she was probably truly looking out for you, even though a little mis-guided.

I personally wouldn't consider this a major betrayal.

[cheeselovecia]

Ur opinions is great..but I still cant forget wat she had done to me.. Althou I have forgiven her, but I still cant talk to her like nothing happenned or treat her like before.. There is still something inside my heart tat make a gap between us..

After she told my mum everything, she did came to my home to meet me.. I asked her why u never discuss with me 1st, she said i was too busy n was reachable.. but at least she must cum n talk to me 1st before she make such a BIG dicision.. And she said she is very relieved after she told my mum about tis.. I rili dun understand why ? why is she so relieved tat she had told my mum n make me suffering the whole life.. I once tried to suicide becuz I felt tat my life is worthless but not becuz of my bf ( cos I am not with him anymore since tat day ). Its just I have lost wats the meaning of life becuz of her..

[cool]

Ur opinions is great..but I still cant forget wat she had done to me.. Althou I have forgiven her, but I still cant talk to her like nothing happenned or treat her like before

Yah, I understand. Once we feel betrayed, we lose trust in that someone forever and it's usually hard to gain back. That's why we should always try to be honest and true and always maintain our integrity.

And she said she is very relieved after she told my mum about tis.. I rili dun understand why ?

Exactly what I said earlier. Your friend obviously worried about you a great deal and she truly believe that your BF used black magic on you. When you start to understand that, perhaps you won't be so mad at her anymore.

I once tried to suicide becuz I felt tat my life is worthless

Ah, you're too sensitive. Need to lighten up a bit, lol!!

Life is wonderful, so live it and enjoy it while you can.

[cheeselovecia]

Haha.. as u said, maybe i am just too sensitive.. :P

I lost my trust to her, at once i also lost my trust from my parents.. Thats why i rili cant enjoy my life and live to the fullest.. i dun have the freedom tat i want like go to my fren`s bdae party n stay overnite , etc.. Its so terrible ..

Anyway..thanks ferr the advice .. I will think about wat u said..

[freakyfreddie]

how did you lose your parent's trust, what did you do girl, what did you do that's so horrible to have lost your parent's trust???

[astros99]

Personally, if you hate him in the long run you should forgive him. I once had a friend who betrayed me. We were best friends for a while and then I fell in love with this girl. Now the girl never told me she had a bf until I found out. So my friend would prank call her and stuff and be like 'your bf is cheating on you' to try and get them to break up. I knew he was doing it but when she told me I would act clueless. But one day he randomly decided to IM her and tell her all that, and then he was like yeah your making him depressed he really loves you and he just flat out told her everything. Got me pretty pissed, and we dont talk anymore

[ksakkash]

As you betrayed me i trusted you.
for that just to be treated well is too much to ask you.
The day you left me i took one last look in your eyes,
only for the next day to find out from your best fr ...