How to deal with this?

[rockyroad]

have u ever been in a relationship where ur partner wont tell u what he had decided until well, he make up his mind..????

this just pisses me off.. if he told me that he already do that and u confront him why he just told u now when its been decided and all he says is " well, i thought it was ok with u"... crap...

u told him that u dont like it that way and he then told u he understand but then he did it again... well not consciously i guess...

but still he did it.....

so there... any ideas???????

HELP!

[supressedinsanity]

Hmm I dont really get what your trying to say but let me clarify.

Yoyr bugged because your partner does things while assuming that your okay with them.

Well the easiest way to solve that is to tell him the areas where your not comfertable with him taking decisions without consulting you. Maybe related to sharing conversations about friends with other people. Or about your personal life etc.

Because you cant expect him to clarify each and everything with you and whether your ok with them

[sanuanu]

It will get really difficult if that person is your spouse!!!
I mean mates will think that since they love you, they can do anything and just tell you because in their thought, they are right. They think that they would tell us and feel that it wd be ok with us.
Oh dear.... Its not that easy. Because if I am living with her then I have a right on her and I can make veto on his decision....
and here starts a breakup ....... which can cause some danger .....
i hope this is not the case with me......

[rockyroad]

thanks yall for ur answer.. well. sanu is more likely right... and i hate it... lol

[sanuanu]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

thanks yall for ur answer.. well. sanu is more likely right... and i hate it... lol

No more sanu please....

well, ur welcome for ur thanx...

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