Is commucnication really needed to keep the friendship alive

rockyroad · #1 (**permalink**) 08-24-2006, 12:22 PM

well, just wondering if communication is really needed in friendship.. coz ppl come and go. like for instance, u and ur friend are going to different university? and without communication, do u think if they see each other in like 2 years.. the friendship is still there or it passes u by??? and if u two always keep in touch but never saw each other for like 5 years for some reason and u will see each other?? do u think.. the friendship is still there??

zzeell19shy1 · #2 (**permalink**) 08-29-2006, 03:44 AM

rockyroad wrote:

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well, just wondering if communication is really needed in friendship.. coz ppl come and go. like for instance, u and ur friend are going to different university? and without communication, do u think if they see each other in like 2 years.. the friendship is still there or it passes u by??? and if u two always keep in touch but never saw each other for like 5 years for some reason and u will see each other?? do u think.. the friendship is still there??

Hmmm...as for me, communication is the best tool to start a relationship,as to friendship. It cannot deny the fact that we can encounter problems behind in the long run of a relationship. Its really depend on the person involved, as for my experience i have a lot of friends, that made us to live in a separate lives, we go into different university, yah! I admit its hard if you don't talk that often as much as you could like the usual way before, it really requires a lot of understanding and patience...i did! You will miss each other's company, as one of my friend quote, “we may not talk often but there's no way to forget you!” Well i guess, its really up to us, how we tresured our friend.... what matters is that you learned how to keep your friendship and made it last up to the very best that you can!!! Always remember that nothing is constant but CHANGE, then learned to adjust and accept and expect the unexpected as well!!

sanuanu · #3 (**permalink**) 08-29-2006, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by zzeell19shy1

“we may not talk often but there's no way to forget you!” Well i guess, its really up to us, how we tresured our friend.... what matters is that you learned how to keep your friendship and made it last up to the very best that you can!!![/color]

Exactly, communication is what required to start a relationship but it is not neccesary to carry on a relationship. Yes, it is quite possible that two friends meet ater a long time and they will still remember each other and will enjoy their time together.
Yeah, we miss them and that missness is what makes a friendship more strong and more close to the heart..
Sometime excess communication can make your friendship to die....
believe mee.

supressedinsanity · #4 (**permalink**) 08-30-2006, 08:24 AM

I dont think communication is necessary to cntinue or maintain a friendship.
People can very well not speak to each other for years and then when they meet again, carry on their friendship at where they left it.

But I think they only thing which might get in the way of this happeneing is someone who changes a lot.
Changes their values and image and such to such an extent that they dont feel comfortable hanging around with their old friends.
These kind of people would not be able to maintain long term friendships.

I have friends who I meet once a year but when we meet we both can adjust ourselves to the others wavelength inspite of changing so much.
Thats the key, Being able to blend back into a group that decides friendhship, Not communication.

himanshi · #5 (**permalink**) 09-01-2006, 02:23 PM

[quote="rockyroad"]well, just wondering if communication is really needed in friendship.. coz ppl come and go. like for instance, u and ur friend are going to different university? and without communication, do u think if they see each other in like 2 years.. the friendship is still there or it passes u by??? and if u two always keep in touch but never saw each other for like 5 years for some reason and u will see each other?? do u think.. the friendship is still there??

yes it is there but u need to just have a chat atleast once in 2 mths this is human to feel ur way so go ahead you haven't lost ur friend ALL THE BEST

blueyeslover · #6 (**permalink**) 09-03-2006, 02:56 PM

[quote="himanshi"]

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Originally Posted by rockyroad

well, just wondering if communication is really needed in friendship.. coz ppl come and go. like for instance, u and ur friend are going to different university? and without communication, do u think if they see each other in like 2 years.. the friendship is still there or it passes u by??? and if u two always keep in touch but never saw each other for like 5 years for some reason and u will see each other?? do u think.. the friendship is still there??

yes it is there but u need to just have a chat atleast once in 2 mths this is human to feel ur way so go ahead you haven't lost ur friend ALL THE BEST

If u have trusted & good friendship, u basically do't require communication, but for day to day u can not live without the communication.
What's this we are doing, chatting, talking making new friends all over the world..... all these can u do without the communication.....NO WAY
According to my belief & thoughts, communication is a must

LOVE & PEACE

rockyroad · #7 (**permalink**) 09-04-2006, 01:07 PM

geez guys, thanks for your replies.. anyways there is always a case that u too do keep in touch but when u saw each other u felt the ackwardness.. maybe its because of the distance and the time.. well, supressedinsanity have some point on the wavelenght thing and being able to blend.. but i guess.. we do need communication too... ty for all ur replies

blueyeslover · #8 (**permalink**) 09-05-2006, 05:19 PM

[quote="supressedinsanity"]I dont think communication is necessary to cntinue or maintain a friendship.
People can very well not speak to each other for years and then when they meet again, carry on their friendship at where they left it.

Sorry my dear but I don't agree with u. U need communication, it never happens in this life that u dont talk with somebody for years and when u meet again, you can carry on.
By no communications between others for years means that u have other priority on ur head other than friendship, which u prefer to handle, rather than wasting time on friend....
Communication is required to keep a long lasting friendship. 8)

peachey · #9 (**permalink**) 09-06-2006, 01:21 PM

I have to totally agree with blueyes...if you have a friendship yes communcation often is a must or like they said it will be very awkward once you do meet again....

I have a friend I have had for long time..we do not get to talk much or see each other maybe couple times a year..but we do email each other couple times a month...

I know if we did not we would not be as close as friends as we are...

So if you think you can go with out communication to a friend then maybe it is an causual meeting of a person more than a friendship ...

rockyroad · #10 (**permalink**) 09-08-2006, 06:32 AM

well, a diff thing happened to me.. never talk to a friend for a year.. not a single hi or hello.. she is a close friend.. she got pregnant when we were in college. so she stop school. her parents are mad at us coz for some reason they sort of blame us for what happened to her, coz we are suppose to be together and do stuff.. so we were sort of banned to talk to her during that day and we knw that she need us so much.. she was sent to another place to deliver the child and went to that school.. when she came back home in our place.. we decided to go to her home although we were scared that her parents will sent us away. but alas... they have accepted us.. so now, our gang is still intact... the communication was barred but we know and we understand what had happened.. the bond was still there.. and we are happy that we get through with it..

peachey · #11 (**permalink**) 09-08-2006, 09:38 PM

yes and that is like a diffrent type that you had no control or neither did she...I am happy for all of you that things turn out and now all of you are back to a good friendship....

lilibet · #12 (**permalink**) 09-08-2006, 11:53 PM

That's a tough one, but I think that friendships often change and evolve. People grow apart sometimes and even though the friendship may have been strong at one time things can change in life, interests change, social and life situations change and friends may not connect anymore.
But communication is important if one friend feels that the relationship is changing and they want to find out why it's becoming that way or what's on the person's mind.

To me, communication is part of any relationship because that's just the way friendships seem to function at their best. When people are open and honest with eachother (even if they feel they are growing apart) it can head off any hurt feelings or misunderstandings.

peachey · #13 (**permalink**) 09-09-2006, 12:20 AM

lilibet ...very well spoken and the whole truth....

Yes with the communication there has to be no matter what friendship or realtionship you have to have it. Once the communication breaks down then the friendship or realtionship will suffer and start to break down...

rockyroad · #14 (**permalink**) 09-09-2006, 05:32 AM

oh well, we all have ideas. and i guess all our ideas are right. anyway, without communication then i guess we dont know what will happen next.. right?? just like my case.. yah, we have no communication for a year.. but after that.. we always get to the point that we do keep in touch... we ever make a move to go to their place and to talk.. that is communication right? just dont know what had happen if we just give up after that.. maybe, our friendship hadnt work it.. if we did otherwise.

peachey · #15 (**permalink**) 09-09-2006, 01:48 PM

Well at least you went and tried to keep in touch I find your situation a little diffrent than some example posted here.

You had parents involved and a situation that was competly out of eveyone control ..so I see a diffrence here with the communication on this situation...