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Break-up survival guide
Break-up Survival Guide
Unfortunately, sometimes relationships end. When they do, the breakup can cause much pain to either or both partners for a significant length of time. If you are someone who has recently ended a relationship or if you know someone who has, this will help you or them deal with the pain of a breakup.
The following is a list of suggestions for people ending a long-term relationship:
Remember that you…
* will feel pain
* have survived this type of pain before and will this time as well
* will feel lonely
* have survived feeling lonely before and will again
* are ok and lovable
Accept that…
* the relationship is over
* your ex partner has both good and bad qualities; do not idealize or discount him/her
Focus on your…
* self
* personal growth
* self care
Complete with your…
* self
* your ex
Own…
* the magnificence of who you are
* your part in the relationship break up
Give yourself time to…
* grieve
* be alone
* recover
Make sure that you…
* get touch, from friends or a body therapist
* have someone to come home to sometimes, such a relative or a friend
Reinvent your…
* community
* self
* future
* dreams
The following is a list of suggestions for people ending a short-term relationship:
Realize that…
* the pain you feel is not about your ex partner, but about your past
* if you start healing your past the pain will subside
* holding on to anger at an ex partner will keep you attached and in pain
Complete with…
* your ex partner
* all of your ex partners
* your parents
Give yourself the…
* room to grieve
* room to grow
Build for yourself a…
* community
* self esteem
* a life that you love
Whether you are ending a long term or a short term relationship…
* don't look for a new relationship until you are done grieving
* trust that when ready you will attract the right partner
* welcome the pain as an opportunity to evolve
It's through self evolution that you will be able to create a great relationship you dream of.
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