converting friendship into fiery passion
In the world today there are countless numbers of friendships, guys and gals, who are the best of buddies, but who will never marry nor convert their close relationship into a fullness of romantic love. It is a great tragedy, really, because true friendship makes the best foundation for love. Those who pass up the opportunity to convert a platonic relationship into lasting love sometimes miss the greatest chance they will ever have for true romantic passion.
The question isn't really, "Do I want more out of this friendship, but how do I attain it?" Often, one or the other party of such a friendship secretly longs for more. But out of fear of losing the relationship they already have, they fail to capitalize on the potential they have. And, make no mistake about it, this failure to change transient possibilities into permanent realities will be looked back upon in later life with great remorse when even the friendship is gone.
Like the religious proverb says, "for whosoever hath, to him shall be given; and whosever hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he seemeth to have." A committed relationship is within reach after all, but the person desiring it must: (1) know what to do to obtain it, and (2) do it.
Most often, the person wanting more out of a friendship thinks that that they have already done everything they can to make the person love them back. They truly believe the relationship has already proceeded as far as possible. But the truth is that they have just done all that they can think of. There is something more to be done that can make the difference, they just haven?t learned what it is yet. My purpose in this article is to instruct you what you can do to make the difference.
The great secret is that if a woman is what we call "just pals" with a man, she has already advanced 90 yards towards the goal line of becoming his wife, only she is usually oblivious to that fact! Friendship really is the true foundation of lasting love. The only problem is, friendship still isn't the totality of romantic love, and even when a woman realizes she would give anything to make those final 10 yards to have it all, she hasn't the foggiest idea how to execute them. And, make no mistake, if she can't get over the goal line, she remains as scoreless as if she were still in her own home territory. Thus she remains unaware of how close she really is to victory!
If a man and woman are really very close friends, a couple of simple tactical maneuvers can generally convert the friendship into full romantic love in a matter of weeks, and sometimes, days.
Friendship, Respect, and Passion
In the Love Tactics SystemTM, I demonstrate that the three essential elements of romantic love are FRIENDSHIP, RESPECT, and PASSION. These can be compared to a (1) keg of gunpowder that has been carefully filled to the top, (2) a carefully inserted fuse at the top of the keg, and (3) a simple spark to set the fuse on fire. It should be obvious from this analogy that the system works best when assembled in the proper order.
If a person should accidentally light the spark of PASSION, without having first filled the cask with gunpowder, the relationship may be fun for a few brief moments, but it soon fizzles out. On the other hand, if one has taken the time to carefully pack their keg to the brim with FRIENDSHIP, establishing a fuse of RESPECT to balance the package, then when the spark of PASSION is applied to the whole, you will literally think an earthquake with lasting ramifications has just occurred!
You Are Closer to Fulfilling Love than You Ever Imagined
I am writing this brief article with the intention of enlightening you as to what you can still do to make the difference, if you happen to find yourself in the above described situation. Whenever I counsel an aspiring suitor who wants to win a particular person as their sweetheart, we always start with the fundamentals, FRIENDSHIP, RESPECT, and PASSION, of which FRIENDSHIP is the first and most tedious stage of romantic love to cultivate.
But for those who already have a close friendship established (especially what can be termed a "buddy status") my job is so much easier!! That's because the most time consuming part of developing a romantic love relationship always lies in cultivating the FRIENDSHIP part, and the final conversion to reciprocated romance simply lies in a few easily applied techniques that build on the previously constructed foundation!
Without going into the necessary essentials of establishing step one, FRIENDSHIP, since we will consider that those most interested in this article have already got that, we will proceed to inform you how to cultivate RESPECT and incite PASSION.
Achieving step two, Winning RESPECT from the one you want, is really based on a simple psychological law: "People look up to and are drawn towards those who they perceive to be emotionally independent and self-reliant. They are repulsed by those who they think might be needy and clingy, if given the opportunity."
So if you want to command RESPECT, you have got to make sure that your best friend does not harbor the secret impression that you need them more than they need you. It might surprise you to learn that in nearly every platonic male and female relationship one of the parties secretly believes the other one wants them and would jump at the opportunity if they were to open the door to such a possibility. That perception is actually the barrier, which keeps the relationship from advancing further.
It's not as though you could talk the one you want out of this perception, either. You have to convince them through your actions. The simplest of these is just to methodically begin seeing less of your "friend". Without ever saying that you are taking such steps (in fact, down playing such an idea if the one you want happens to bring up the subject) you, indeed, do begin mysteriously calling and seeing them less.
Someone I know just recently turned the tables on a resistant "buddy" by this very technique. Simply by staying friends, but by becoming less available, the one they wanted soon went from wanting to be "just friends" to, in their own words to their previous friend, "only wanting you"!
While it often may seem more trouble than it's worth to a woman in love with her best friend to go to such lengths, it is effective for that very reason. Don't ever kid yourself into thinking that the guy you want doesn?t see through you when you?re in love with him. Your very availability is one of the dead giveaways!
After all is said and done, though, the spark of Passion is ignited by implementing the psychological principle: "You want what you can't have", and by introducing the element of doubt into the mind of the one you want. So long as they remain secretly confident that they can have you if they want you, then they will remain passionless in their yearning towards you.
Only when something in the fundamental dynamics of the Platonic friendship changes, will the one you want find themselves consumed with obsessive desire for you. There's a saying that, "if you want more of what you've already got, just keep doing the same things, but if you want something different, you're going to have to change your approach."
So, when you find yourself in a buddy relationship with the man you love, don't feel sorry for yourself. Count your lucky stars! Because you are closer to a winning touchdown than you could ever imagine. By applying the simple behavioral principles to cultivate RESPECT and PASSION to your already existing FRIENDSHIP, you can change stagnation to victory, and enjoy the committed companionship of the one you want for the rest of your happily married life!
