Why do friends always fight?

sonavs · #1 (**permalink**) 08-15-2006, 01:19 PM

do friends talk behind our back and for no reason be our friend
if yes why

humpty · #2 (**permalink**) 08-16-2006, 10:24 AM

I think they do, yes they do.

I dunno why, but it seems, these things just happen, all the time!
Usually when you least expect it too!

What sort of experience have you been experiencing lately to make you ask such questions?

alma1216 · #3 (**permalink**) 08-23-2006, 09:34 PM

sometimes friends can talk behind your back for jeaslouy or because they just they don't like you.There is many reasons for friends to talk behind your back.There is no way that a friend won't talk about you.Only a real friend won't talk about you.but in these days it's really hard to find a friend who will be your true friend.

peachey · #4 (**permalink**) 09-06-2006, 01:27 PM

Then are they really friends if they fight with you all the time or talk behind your back...

To me a true friend does not do that ....they respect you and would stand up for you no matter what ....

rockyroad · #5 (**permalink**) 09-08-2006, 06:05 AM

i dunno, i guess a disagreement is always there.. it will exist in every situation.. coz you are 2 different people with diff opinions and beliefs and sometimes friends have opposite opinions thus making a fight over something.. but a disagreement will always keep the bonding alive and the friendship stronger.. what matter is you respect ones belief and ones character and personality.. fight is there.. but eventually.. you both will settle and will handle it...

talking someones back is a diff thing.. well, if its a bad thing.. then i dunno.. sometimes people talk in someones back for the sake of discussing things and figuring out a friend... i guess.. so they are not doing it on purpose...

am i making sense??? sorry, its maybe because of my flu..

peachey · #6 (**permalink**) 09-08-2006, 09:41 PM

Yes you are making sense and sorry to hear you are not feeling well I hope you feel better soon....

As you mention in the post about people talking behind thier backs...I guess i dont see that type when you are talking about a friend maybe help them out and need to get advise...

To me talking about a person behind thier back would be like negative talk or gee I dont like them just because...and then when you see them you are friendly ...friendly to them ..that to me is talking behind thier backs.

rockyroad · #7 (**permalink**) 09-09-2006, 06:25 AM

awww, thanks peachey..im getting better now.. at least much better than yesterday.

i see ur point now, we call that people.. 'plastic'..coz they are not being real, they are not being genuine, they are not our friend.. they just want us to believe that they are.. they are the kind who stick around when you have bread and butter. but when life gets tough.. they are the first one who runs away from u. leaving you nothing and making you feel more sorry than you could ever be..

I hate those kinds, but then.. there are really people who are like that.. i dunno why. maybe its just in them, part of them, and we just have to accept that.

peachey · #8 (**permalink**) 09-09-2006, 02:09 PM

You are correct and often wonder people with type of behavior if they are running away from something with in themselves that can not except what is going on ...and sometimes wonder if they have not learn to be a good conversationest to be able to find other things to talk about besides other people behind thier back....

Guess that is why we have the gossip lines lol

rockyroad · #9 (**permalink**) 09-10-2006, 09:50 AM

haha.. yah.. gossips... but then, lets look at it that way.. are we really that hot and popular that they talk behind our backs?? i mean.. whats it to them?? why do they have to do that?? to bring us down? if so.. then are we really that above them?? haha.. may it be good or bad... and we can always put that negative comments as a constructive one.. and make ourselves a better person.. what do u say??

peachey · #10 (**permalink**) 09-12-2006, 05:26 AM

OH I totally agree with you on every point there...and yes we should use the negative to get above them...but then are we feeding them to just do the same again maybe where they see we are giving attention to thier fun????

humpty · #11 (**permalink**) 09-12-2006, 03:52 PM

it's a positive theory, but gossips are usually not said in front of you, else it's not gossips, so if you don't know what they talk about, how to improve? lol

rockyroad · #12 (**permalink**) 09-14-2006, 03:32 AM

humpty.. u have a point.. but then, gossips leads to rumors.. and rumors always do reach u... so guess u always have a hint.. coz storys will always reach u.. the air have ears, u know... but peachey, does it mean we are encouraging them to gossip more?? i guess not, coz if we do take it in a way they are not expecting it, then they will shut up... i hope...

peachey · #13 (**permalink**) 09-17-2006, 04:07 PM

But the way we handle the situation is going to be the out come ....if we give in and confront them with all this it will get worse but if we just let them be and ignore...hopfully they get the point..but then who are they tell this too ...another friend of both of ours ...hope that friend speaks up to them and tells them the truth. That would help the situation.

jestuarn · #14 (**permalink**) 09-27-2006, 08:43 AM

I don't know for you. But for me, it's a must. Fighting, or 'debating' as we called it, is the spice of our friendship. Within fighting , we get to know each other better. And sides, if it was all peacful, like they kept agreeing to what we decide or do, seems like that is @$$ licking than true friends. They are our eyes when we are blind, you know.

humpty · #15 (**permalink**) 10-26-2006, 04:57 PM

well, true or not true, good or bad,

i just do my best to avoid fights, and whne i fail to avoid one, i do my best to minimize the damage, and see what could be done to make up for it, to have kept a fren or lose one, is still better than to have made an enemy i think,

so, avoiding the creation of an enemy is always something i put a lot of attention to