Hiv test before marriage

[xtremes]

Is it necessary to undergo Elisa or HIV test before marriage ?

[sanuanu]

Interesting question!
I wud like to be simple by saying yesssssss

[king89]

what ever is ..i dont care....

[eastbridge]

Ten years back, this question would not have arised. But more and more people getting infected, some have started doing it.

[rowenahere]

Trust is one of the elements in a relationship. Why do you have to subject your partner to an HIV test if you know that person from head to toe and s/he is not a prostitute after all. Aside from that if that girl is still virgin and is leading a conservative life. You are damaging her self-esteem. What is your purpose for that test? Is it to boost your ego? Or you are too careful from that infection. For me, there is no need for such test especially if you know the girl so much. Just be cautious before jumping to the conclusion that a test is necessary. I must tell you, you can marry her and you both can be happy even without undergoing to that test, provided that you are certain of the kind of person you are marrying with.

[cool]

Rowena, i understand your position and support it to a certain extent. You need to trust the person you are in a relationship with.

But trust and reality are just two very different beasts.

Things to consider:

1. Can you be absolutely sure about the person you're about to marry? If your answer is yes, then you're probably too naive. Too many ppl think they do, and then realise later that they don't.

2. Even if the person you're about to marry is 100% honest, can HE/SHE be sure that they do not have HIV?? There are millions of ppl who don't know they are infected. Could be from a past blood transfusion and could be from all kinds of things they forgot..

The real question is, do you want to risk your children's life and health because you 'trust' someone? Trust is great, but we gotta be realistic.

[rowenahere]

I maybe naive in your perception, but my culture does not need much of that HIV Test prior to marriage. Yet, you are right Cool it is better to be cautioned than to ignorantly suffer from plausible consequences in you family health. I have also realized that there are other factors to be considered by wise persons before jumping to marriage, one of which is tracing the ancestral background of the fiancee. Does her/his family has diabetes or other hereditary diseases? Is anyone of the family has suffered from down syndrome or other mental and psychological disorders? Today's time is no longer as conservative as the time immemorial. At least in my country, our culture does not need such HIV test because our society is still governed by norms.

[bigolroger]

well its best to have an HIV test cos you dont want your children to be AIDS victims. if you really love the person who has HIV then have a mutual agreement to get sex elsewhere