Friends parents

[panggz]

i agreed on the "true friends are hard to come by" part.. :D

[sanuanu]

Originally Posted by panggz

i agreed on the "true friends are hard to come by" part.. :D

Thanks fo rthe clarification.

[panggz]

no problem.. :)

[peachey]

Wow frist I would ask myself what kind of friendship do i have with this friend?? second where do I want to go with this friendship????


One thing the cousin and the job well if the boss is being like that I wonder if it is more than that ...this is not your cousin fault that the family come in and open thier mouth and stuff like that...and not your fault you did not tell them to do it....so now you put a friendship that may have some meaning to it on the line....

Second...if it is a meaningful realtionship they need you for your support ...even if you have to sit and listen time after time after time...this is what a great friendship is....remember you could be in thier shoe and doing this to them and would you want them to walk out on you.,.

Ok so now you are tired of listening to the friend...so now the time to make a stand and tell them what you think...and that you are there for support but ......you need to have them as a friend too and that both of you need the quality friendship time with out having the families of either involved. That is called getting on with your lives....

I would deep think about what I want aout of the realtionship and wonder if it is worth it or not...but remember put yourself in thier shoes for just a min and see ....

[sanuanu]

Originally Posted by peachey

but remember put yourself in thier shoes for just a min and see ....

Exactly

[alma1216]

Look sometimes things can be hard with friendships.If this is your situation,then i woulf recommand to go and talk with your best friend mom and sister.Maybe that way you can fixed the problem or least try to.Don't worry even though the mother and sister keep on saying things about you that could be mean you should still be her friend because it's not her fault.Was her mom and sister mean with you since you 've been friends with her?Anways, you might want to try what i said,it might work who knows.Try it might help

[jestuarn]

Well...it is hard to put youself in someone else's shoes, as we don't know what goes on behind the screen (except if you are a psychiatrist). :?

[peachey]

except if you are a psychiatrist

And they only know what you tell them and if you dont tell them everything sometimes it is hard for them to know also .....

[sanuanu]

which will be verey bad. I mean you need to trust these people:- doctor & lawyer. Unless and untill u ll be true to them its wastage of money and time.
What if your friend is a psychiatrist!
that would be wonderful and you ll be truth ful to him/her and both you will not have any prbolemsssss

[jestuarn]

Depends on whether they are a psychiatrist for the job income or for their own passion.

I had a cousin who married a pscychiatrist and divorced him. Want to know why?

One clue: A true psychiatrist is always more psycho than the patient.

Her ex-husband was so in-depth and determined to understand his patient's pains, he had more then one nightmare, even more than his patients( try to add 15 into one person, could YOU stand that?). Outside , he seemed normal and kind man, almost lovely to say, but he had felt too many pain.

I asked him whether he wanted to quit. He told me," There were times I wanted to quit, but to think that I finally can get my patient's trust and faith, I can't lose now. Even if it cost me my life, it's worth saving more by sacrificing it. Besides, no matter how it tortures me, helping them is my whole life now."

I remembered it very well, because I became so astounded I didn't realized he had walked away. Now I know the feelings of the my country's leaders. See the similarities? Too many lives depend on them that they couldn't built their own happy lives.

Since I was ten then, I always promised myself not to burden other people. They had lives of their own, and I want them to enjoy it to the fullest.

You know, I had a crush to him after that, but since he wasn't my cousin's husband anymore( which make me less guilt for falling for him), I haven't seen him since. :?

Being a normal psychiatrist is okay, but to be a true one, you need to be strong-willed and patient. Also, to see the bright side in life. Lastly, to take account over all that involved. :cry:

[shadwell06]

thanx for the post's I lost web-site address until today, as I was looking for something else!! I did notice the subject changing quite a bit from the original!!

well as way of an update, then I went drinking with my friend about 4 weeks ago, and nothing really happened, her neighbour was in the pub chatting with us most of the night! so didn't get to discuss a lot.

and yesterday I went to a funeral and my cousin was there, I didn't really know what to do, as she really did hurt with the comment, so I didn't say anything. probably best.

there is a bond there, as she kept looking over. probably waiting for me to say the first word, but the way I was feeling then the wrong word might have come out, as I left the ball in her court with a text message after her bitting my head off that night.

why does this have to be this way? at least I know what I wan't but just putting it into practice is the hard bit! I have decided to keep my friend, but not see her so much, as for my cousin then I am waiting to see what happens.

I got a funny feeling she did try phoning tonight, as had an unknown phone number call me last night, on mobile/cellnet for the americans! and landline. but when I spoken to my friend online, and phoned my parent's it was none of them.

which neither know my landline number, so it couldn't be them. it is only her that has got my landline number, and my friend. so I think she finally got the message.

yahoo!!

well watch this space it might change!! bye for now

[peachey]

Hey that is great news and yes maybe she did. Time will tell.

Seems like you are making good choices in this and moving on. That is the biggest thing. To move on and not let this whole situation brew in your life.

Your cousin willl see this also that you are moving on with this and soon will not be an issue. What done has been done and no changing it now. Just learn from it is all we can do.

Sometimes this is hard to move on for some people they have to just dwell in it. I know myself sometimes I get caught up in issues that need to be delt with, drop and contiue. Part of human nature I guess that some times we stop and just dont seem to be able to move.

Good for you and yes please let us know...keep in touch love to hear more from you...

[callpappy]

shadwell06 ;
I read your very difficult situation,how your friends and family
are having some hard words,the point being ,if you live with your
friend you will loose ur cousin and your cousin, must be appologized
to by your friend and if you get involved they will bite your head off,
personaly,I just can't wait n watch to see what happens,I'd have to stur
the pot a little and,cause them either to really get into a knock
down drag out fight or get over it.You see I come from a long line
of either ors,either Custer stays off our land as we told him to,
or we would have to open his ears to the words,he didn't and we did.
Trouble delt with as needed,why lose your head,when they want each
others head anyway,or act like it.
Bring it to a boil,then let simmer till done.
Otherwords,fix a big meal,everyones favorite foods,enjoy it,
let it be done,Or watch one hell of a fight,to me better then football. :twisted: As I said ,either, or.

[shadwell06]

maybe I didn't get myself across clear, it is nothing to do with my friend, it is her mother and sister.

I never said anything about living together, as that would never happen anyway! mainly the reason being we have known each other 25 years of our 30 years of life.

yes there is a special bond there, for us to know eachother that long, but that is where it is staying, nothing will progress further in this friendship.

as for my cousin/adopted cousin, then I still feel she is family, and as such then I should stick by,

and that is where the dilemma comes in, if I stick by my family, then my friend gets hurt, or if I stick by my friend, then it might cause a family fued!

[humpty]

wow, your dilemma's really a tight one, hard to decide what to do huh,