True and good friends are hard to come by

summie · #1 (**permalink**) 04-08-2006, 04:31 PM

Yeah, that's right...true friends are hard to come by these days...and I wonder why? Reminds of that song by what's his name? Eh, I forget but it goes something like: 'Where'd all the good people go...I've bee searching the T.V and radio...'

ucancomenshare · #2 (**permalink**) 04-10-2006, 09:28 PM

i agree with u 100% just so true !!!!!!!!!!!! but i wonder why ?

sanuanu · #3 (**permalink**) 04-13-2006, 06:55 AM

We live in a world where everybody is selfish even you n me also. That's the reason why it is hard to find a person who is trully your freind. But there is a trick if you want a true friend then behave like what u want to be behaved like your true friend.
Was that a trick? 8)

jestuarn · #4 (**permalink**) 06-22-2006, 04:24 PM

I think that is because most friendship occured from some sort of condition. And then, when it had ended, it was hard to find any resaon to be togeher anymore.Sometimes, even when we think we are friends, we are confused whethe it's from the heart or from our own survival instincts? SOmetimes, we felt like we are being a hypocrtite, or our being being one.

Tough and cruel, but it's the truth.

( This is the confessions of someone who had been called 'best friend' as many times , but never thought of her friends like that)

sanuanu · #5 (**permalink**) 06-23-2006, 06:55 AM

Well said. Most of our friendship are based on our needs. We are friends because we need something from them and they need something. But by having this for sometime when you'r confused then you are not best friend for that person. But there will be some of them for which you ll feel that they are someone special for you. At that persone my friend will be your best friend. You can't just expect the same for every one you met as a friend. That's why its said Best friends are harder to come by!!!!!!!!

peachey · #6 (**permalink**) 06-23-2006, 04:11 PM

Have to agree Friends are hard to come by.
You think you have found a best friend and in time the hit you in the back.

But there are people out there that do know what a true friend is.

I have had one for years now. No matter what comes my way I know for sure they will be right there for me. But remember you have to be the same back to them when it is time. Having a friend does not mean they support you and you dont with them.

ucancomenshare · #7 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 01:26 PM

well u all are rite ..... but sometimes its just u who betray others rather than otheres betraying u

jestuarn · #8 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ucancomenshare

well u all are rite ..... but sometimes its just u who betray others rather than otheres betraying u

ditto...that hurts a lot, even when we do it to total strangers.. :(

ucancomenshare · #9 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 06:09 PM

but u come 2 kno it all when u r ditched by some1 the same u ditched others !!!! its a hrt breaking topic

peachey · #10 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 12:45 AM

Yes it is heart breaking. I have had that done to be a friend betrayed me and hurts alot. You trust them for years then they betray you. It is like losing someone. Does not feel good.

sanuanu · #11 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 08:19 AM

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well u all are rite ..... but sometimes its just u who betray others rather than otheres betraying u.

If you betray your friend how can it be heart breakening for you. The decision to betray your friend is taken by you and I don't think i will become sad if I get to know that my friend is not a good person and who is need to be betrayed!
but at the same time I don't like being betrayed by friends.

ucancomenshare · #12 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 10:28 AM

now did i mention tht by me betraying some1 i will feel bad read it aloud n ull come 2 know
well there r many a times when u just have 2 take a rong step everytime u just cant be rite
i took this topic like ....ppl r saying that it really hurts when some1 betrays them but think about it when sometimes u betray some1 its just not frens ...n don tell me that all pps here have never done it wuts the harm in accepting a fact rather than being goody goody

sanuanu · #13 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 11:14 AM

To err is human. We can never be correct everytime. Well, but I don't think that I will realy betray my friend intentionaly untill he/she screams. Yeah, I can make some hard decisions like not to talk to them but that also not without any valid reason. I can give one example, I had a very good friend when I was in school. We were living in differnt cities. We used to meet once in an year. We were realy wating for otherones mails(through post). In between she has lost her father. I was there with her in that difficult time. Our relationship was now effecting our studies. but after some time we felt that we have come to the highest point in our relationship and we are now not enjoying our friendship. It would be better if we separate. Actualy I have used some hard words to her but she did talk to me that she is also in the same feeling as I was in and so we separeted. And now, we both are happy.
Now, see the decision we took looks hard to take at that time, but it wasn't for us.

ucancomenshare · #14 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 03:55 PM

exception u did not betray ...u chose 2 leave n both of u

peachey · #15 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 04:17 PM

ucancomenshare you are correct.

They decided both agreed for the best thing.
When a friend back stabes you mean they hurt you and did not even come face to face with you to say they were sorry.

Sound more like a lovers quarrel to me then a friendship lost. Also If I was a friend to someone and used rough words. I would not blame them for that.
You have to treat friends like you would want to be treated.