Rebounding relationships

[snowmanj]

When you have gone through a very special relationship and it ends for some reason (not your own) would you say the only way to stop thinking of that person is to get a rebound? i think it could be okay but also its not right at the same time? what says everyone out there?

[ucancomenshare]

i think its perfectly okay .... means 1 cant just spend his/her own life cryin n cryin n cryin when u have happiness in front of u

[jestuarn]

It is a nice alternative to let go of the past love, but put into consideration of a few thing:

Firstly, let the rebounder knows he is a rebound from the start, so he wouldn't be hurt when he knows at the end. Sometimes, when we let the warning out first, at least we couldn't blame ourselves not telling the rebounder the truth, also to see whether he was still going to try.

Secondly, doing a rebound means doing what other lovers do, meaning you would be trying to do the same thing you had done with your ex. Are you sure you would feel comfortable doing this?

That's all. Sorry if it sounded childish. And you don't need to take it wholly, it just a suggestion.

[panggz]

i am totally against this whole rebound idea..
doing so means you only think of yourself..
i mean, how would the other person feel if she knew that you chose to go out with her mainly to forget your ex..??
that would really really hurt, won't it..?? :cry:

[jestuarn]

Originally Posted by panggz

i am totally against this whole rebound idea..
doing so means you only think of yourself..
i mean, how would the other person feel if she knew that you chose to go out with her mainly to forget your ex..??
that would really really hurt, won't it..?? :cry:

But panggz ( put whining tone for special effects), it isn't such a bad idea if it is mutual between the rebounder and the rebound-initiator. Let put it this way. here's a story from my aunt:

She had just been left at her wedding day. Ashamed and shocked, she couldn't take it, so she became an anti-socialist and silent all the time. This one time, a friend who, once in the past, someone she tend to go for consult aside from me, came by for a visit.

Seeing her unhappy breaks his heart, so both me and him suggest she went to a party to meet people. It didn't turned out well. Mad, she challenged to do a rebound with him. He agreed, with stupor. It seems that, from my point of view, he likes her very much, only in denial.

Slowly, they begn to fall in love. Not long after, they renewed their relationship from rebound to officially lovers. Right now, they have four kids and one waiting.

So, see. It is not that bad as long both sides know what situation they are in.

[panggz]

yea, i understand where ur getting at, BUT..!
what if the other one doesn't know that the relationship wa supposed to be a rebound thing..??
it'll be so sad and heartbreaking, won't it..?
i mean, i wouldn't want to be a band-aid for some heartbroken guy.. :cry:

well, i guess if they're both into the thing and that they both know what they got themselves into it's fine.. :D