Can cyber friends turn to be lovers

rabindu · #1 (**permalink**) 05-31-2006, 06:26 AM

We see many cases today where the love happens through cyber. Recently there was a incident where an Indian girl fell in love with a pakistanian boy through cyber. They started chatting for the past 3yrs, and at one point of time they felt that they couldnt live separately, they got married throgh internet. After the marriage the girl fled to pakistan but was caught on India-Pak border and was sent back to India. Sad one isnt it ?

sanuanu · #2 (**permalink**) 06-03-2006, 10:24 AM

I don't believe in cyber love. To bring love into a relationship, you need to have somekind of feeling with each other. While on chating you can't feel the emotins of ur friend even if there is a webcam. Again there are exceptions, as u hv suggested the case it in 1-2% only.

jestuarn · #3 (**permalink**) 06-09-2006, 03:17 PM

I think it has its cons and pros....

cons- we don't know whether it's true or fake (infos)

pros- we really love them for what they are9 if they told the truth0 instead of their looks, since online cyberfriends don't usually know each other's faces.

ucancomenshare · #4 (**permalink**) 06-11-2006, 06:15 PM

god m an indian and i hate this india pakistan differences !!!!

rabindu · #5 (**permalink**) 06-12-2006, 06:50 AM

Sanuanu,
I doknow y dont you believe in cyber love, may be you had bad experiences initially in frndship i guess. Let me tell you there are many real incidents which i have seen where in cyber friends have got married and are living happily. one of my frnds sister fell in love with a guy through cyber and after her studies she got married to him. Infact there was lot of opposition from her family side, reason being that guy was from different religion and also he was physically handicapped and she knew this right from the begining. They first fell in love and then saw eachother but that guy had told her frankly in the begining itself. now both of them are married n both are working as s/w engg. they are happy.

Its not 1-2%, but this kind of incidents happens in 20-30% .

jestuarn · #6 (**permalink**) 06-12-2006, 01:40 PM

With the rate technology is going, it wouldn'tmbe a surprise if there are cyber lovers, sms lovers, hm, or even post lovers. (just kidding) :P

love8me · #7 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 07:54 AM

i found my bf now thru online

to some it works & some may not believe in it but to the "some of us", we got a different story

sanuanu · #8 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 09:49 AM

Whether you accept it or not, its two different countries and we have to follow some rules and regulations while passing the border. If they(lovers) caught at border then there must be a reason behind it. We can't allow anybody to enter each others countries. Its the matter of security.
Any ways we are talking about cyber lovers.
So, anyone who realy believe in that. I tried to make friends and it is also very difficult to be in touch with them for a lloong time. Love in cyber space. Its tooooooooooo far from my thinking.

ucancomenshare · #9 (**permalink**) 06-22-2006, 04:06 PM

100% true sanuanu

peachey · #10 (**permalink**) 06-23-2006, 04:31 PM

Hey you have to watch what you are doing. We are from the same country and same state. We live in the states. We meet on line talk for some time, agreed to phone did that for awhile, then pictures lots of them so we could see each other. Finally gave addresses and agreed there are so many options on the internet now to check someone out and if you dont then you are setting your self up.

Go to a site that gives background checks on the person. Get a map site and have it pin point out the house there are programs that do that. Get more information from them family friends of thiers. Agree and talk with them. We did he was my second husband and I had older children and we agreed he have to talk to them also, and I did to to his family and children before we met. I knew so much about him. Would call him at work once in a while to make sure things were good. He also did this.

By the time we finally meet we need evey little thing about each other.
With that we did date on seeing each other for a few months and found out it was all true and did work out.

There are good and bad stories. You will find out the good stories are true ones that people have taken the time to research.

If you are thinking about this take the time and do the research. If they are not willing to work with on this then they are not worth it.

ucancomenshare · #11 (**permalink**) 06-24-2006, 01:45 PM

that was really good its just in exception case .....but m really happy 4 u ..really :P
n yes best of luck 4 ur future

peachey · #12 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 12:48 AM

Thank you and want to add that we have been together for 10 years and very happy also. We have other friends that have meet on the internet and have been married also and are living very happy lives.

It is how you approch it and handle the situation that you can have a safe happy meeting with someone you would like to meet .

sanuanu · #13 (**permalink**) 06-26-2006, 10:12 AM

oooooh, that was tooooo cautious. Yeap, if that steps can be taken before deciding to go for a date or not. In this way cyber friend can become good hubby and wife tooooooooo.

bounce23 · #14 (**permalink**) 07-09-2006, 06:57 AM

i experienced cyber love and it really hurts me till now...

its pros are- you love a person beyond the looks but how the person treats you even if its only thru msgs in the internet or other means...

its cons are- you dont have enough time to spend with each other....you cant really determine if that person loves you or not...

it is my opinion, and i respect yours Ü

but as for me, i think ill never get involved with that kind of relationship again

peachey · #15 (**permalink**) 07-09-2006, 04:44 PM

bounce23
I am sad for you that you experinced that.
There is alot of people out there that are just like the person that you were in love with.
We have to be so cautious as to who we are talking to and what we are talking about. Like you, they did not really love you and make you feel as if they did.

Quote:

you love a person beyond the looks but how the person treats you even if its only thru msgs in the internet or other means...

The statement you wrote is so true, not only on the internet but also when we meet some one local in our area.

In time the healing will be done , and you will be able to find a love that is pure and gentle to you.